Trying for a baby can be a wonderful and exciting time. But for a number of couples it can be an exhausting, heartbreaking and stressful time, full of ups and downs and feelings of hopelessness, failure and grief.
I was one of these people. I felt the grief every month that I still wasn’t pregnant, the grief for a life I wanted that included children. I felt that my life was at a standstill while everyone around me was moving forwards – babies, new jobs, new homes, holidays….I was putting off doing things ‘in case I get pregnant’. I felt jealousy towards people who were able to get pregnant, which made me feel worse. I just felt that they were living the life I wanted. I was putting extreme pressure on myself and my relationship by my only focus being on getting pregnant.
I’m lucky, our story does have a happy ending – after 6 years of trying to conceive and two cycles of IVF, we were blessed with our little boy Jack. Amazingly, after our struggles first time round, I naturally conceived our second child, our little girl Millie.
After having my son I knew I wanted to do something to help those who were still going through the struggle I’d been through. I knew how tough it was and how little support there was available.
I wanted to create something that would give you coping strategies that work for you, as well as helping you document and plan your day to day IVF journey. TTC can be such a lonely time and this planner will hopefully give you a safe place where you are understood and you can share how you are feeling.
I hope you enjoy the book